Archives for July 2005

Another Era Goes By

This article originally appeared at i711.com.

Richard “Dick” Sipek, 82, died on July 17. I was stunned to learn of his death only two hours after he passed. Isn’t that how it usually is? We know that someone’s time will come, but we never think it’ll actually happen.

There’s a particular reason I was truly saddened by his passing. You see, if not for Dick, I probably wouldn’t be here, either.

Dick, whose name sign was an “S” (or a fist) on the side of the chin, was a professional baseball player for the Cincinnati Reds during World War II. Although he only played a short time, he still left his mark on the sport. He was lured into the sport as a student at the Illinois School for the Deaf (ISD) by a houseparent, Luther “Dummy” Taylor, another Deaf man who had also played professional baseball.

But that’s not the reason I owe my life, literally, to Dick.

Dick and his wife, Betty, had three Deaf children: Janice, Ron, and Nancy. They made their home in a modest rambler in Quincy, Ill. One day, when Ron was a high school student at ISD, he heard about a deaf blonde girl who lived a couple of miles away. Ron decided to pay that girl a visit. Little did my mother know that her life would be forever changed when Ron visited her that day.

They communicated using gestures and written notes, since Mom couldn’t sign. Shortly after, Mom decided to go to ISD that fall as a junior. It was there that her life finally made sense; here was a community she fell in love with. 1969 was also the year that ISD won the conference championship in football, defeating local powerhouses. Mom had a marvelous time that year, meeting people and cheering her new school on. My stepfather was part of this championship team, so I grew up listening to him and Ron tell stories about those days.

Mom graduated after only a year at ISD, but didn’t go to Gallaudet until a year later. At Gallaudet, Mom met my father. 30 years later, I write this.

So I like to say that because Dick borne Ron, and because of Ron, Mom went on to Gallaudet and met my father. In a roundabout way, that’s how I credit the Sipeks for my existence. Sure, we can argue that fate could have allowed me to exist regardless of the circumstances. But I like to think otherwise.

I grew up often visiting the Sipeks’ house, especially since Dick’s deaf granddaughter was a classmate. Even today, when I go to Quincy to visit my grandmother, I get together with Ron or his family to chat at the local pizzeria. Back then, I never really knew the significance of Dick’s accomplishments. He was just my friend’s grandfather who seemed to know everybody in town, deaf or hearing.

A few years ago, my boyfriend, Randy – a baseball fanatic who grew up admiring Dick and reading about him in Deaf Heritage – and I decided to do a book on Dick. Dick’s eyes would glow whenever he relived his baseball career, and regaled us with story after story. To his family, his stories were repetitive (understandably so), but to visitors like me, they were glorious; they were stories of another time, of a time where things were drastically different for Deaf people.

The last time Randy and I saw Dick was two years ago. It was during this visit that Dick pulled out his old baseball glove, showed us memorabilia, and lent us many articles/photographs to copy for our book. We posed for a picture, and you can see in this picture Dick’s gentle, proud spirit.

One time I asked Dick how he felt about Curtis Pride, another professional baseball player today, being a non-signer. “It hurts my feelings,” he said sadly. “What’s wrong with sign language? Why can’t he use both spoken English and ASL?” Dick, by the way, could speak very well and was fluent in both languages.

When talking about Jackie Robinson, he said in awe, “Boy, could that guy run! He was the fastest I ever saw, running around the bases!”

And Dummy Hoy? “He was really short,” Sipek remembered. “I also remember he would sway greatly as he walked, bumping against me even in the daytime. It was odd.”

Dick also never charged for giving autographs. When he learned that a store in Chicago was selling his autograph without permission, he was outraged. “Why should I charge for something like that? That’s not right! They need to stop that!”

He led a quiet, memorable life in an unassuming manner. When I go to Quincy in August, I’ll be visiting the Sipek house again. It’ll be bittersweet. But I’ll remember Dick not only for his baseball experiences and contributions to the Deaf community, but for the lives he touched, like mine.

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An Apple a Day Keeps the Doc Away…

This article originally appeared at i711.

A friend recently referred to the head of a major deaf services agency as Dr. Smith (Smith, of course, being a fictitious name). I asked why he was referred to as a “Dr.” when he didn’t have a doctorate and wasn’t a medical doctor. “But this guy has a honorary doctorate, so of course we should call him Dr.!” was the e-mailed response.

When I edited Silent News back in 2000, I got an e-mail from a representative of the same agency requesting that I refer to its CEO as “Doctor” in all printed materials. You see, they often sent in press releases and articles referring to the CEO as “Dr. Smith” and I would always remove the “Dr.” before printing stories. Apparently this didn’t make them happy, and the e-mail reflected this displeasure.

I replied by quoting the Associated Press Stylebook, a book that has stringent guidelines on how to word or spell things in an article, such as abbreviations of state names or words and how to spell/use certain words. On the page listing “doctor,” it says:

Do not use Dr. before the names of individuals who hold only honorary doctorates.

After I faxed a copy of this page from the stylebook, I never received a complaint from that agency again.

Honorary doctorates are bestowed upon those who have performed a great service in certain fields. I have no question or doubt that individuals who have earned honorary doctorates deserve the recognition that comes with being granted such a privilege; they usually have done so much for the community. An honorary degree is just a meager but valuable recognition of their work and contributions.

However, in our quest as Deaf citizens to become as intellectual as and equal to our hearing peers, I’m afraid some of us have lost sight of the appropriateness of being called “Doctor,” especially when an individual has an honorary doctorate rather than an academic doctorate. I don’t have a doctorate and doubt I ever will have the energy to pursue one, but I recognize just how much work is involved in earning such a degree. Years of research, meetings, writing, and presentations, at the very least. I think to call someone who has received an honorary doctorate “Doctor” may be a bit of an insult to those who have actually earned their academic doctorates or those who are in the medical field (including dentists and veterinarians).

Even actress Marlee Matlin received an honorary doctorate soon after she won an Oscar. Should we dare call her Dr. Matlin for being able to swim naked and scream her character’s anguish out in the landmark film Children of a Lesser God, putting her in the same categories with individuals who have academically earned a doctoral degree? I’d prefer that we recognize her for her sudden and impressive surge to stardom at the age of 19, her impact upon the community, and recognize what work she has done to date — and say, “Oh yeah, by the way, she’s got an honorary doctorate. Isn’t that great?”

We should absolutely laud the achievements of individuals who earn honorary doctorates. But unless an individual actually has a doctoral degree that s/he earned through years of academic sweat and toil, let’s not get ahead of ourselves and call that person Doc.

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